I was opportune to watch a video clip today. It talked about a research carried out to monitor children born at different time, place and background. The essence are to find out why some children don’t turn out successful in life and the factors responsible for that. Note that this study was carried out over a period of time to monitor these children from infancy to adulthood. What got me thinking about that clip was the fact that, as parents, we know what we want from our children. We know what we expect from them and we know what we want them to become but the big question is, how do we go about nurturing them, training them and teaching them to become successful? The methods and skills needed for us to be good parents to our children are unknown to us. All we want is for them to have and live a healthy life but we don’t know exactly how to go about giving them that. Therefore we Gamble. I used this word because we are not sure how it works.
Every parent has a parenting style, most are the upgraded parenting style that was used by our own parents. We tend to try to mend some of the mistakes our parents made while we were kids hoping and only hoping that it pays off at the end of the day. We fail to understand that the world which we live in changes over time. There is a probability that the parenting styles used on us may not work on our children.
As parents, we should try to be flexible to changes around us in order to flow with the trends of things which our children are exposed to so that they may not sound strange to us. we should be open to opinions on parenting matters so as to gather information which will help us to optimize our parenting styles to yield good results.